Make choices, don’t live for nod of others

by | Dec 5, 2014 | Opinion

Dilara Kurtaran Assistant News Editor

Dilara Kurtaran
Assistant News Editor


Life is filled with choices. When we were kids, these choices consisted of whether we wanted to draw on the wall or on a piece of paper that was in front of us. In middle school, we chose which music to like and to listen to more. In high school, we chose the people we wanted to hang out with and the clothes we liked to wear.

In college, we chose a path for our lives, a career for our future and maybe little things like whether to save money by not buying the delicious nachos from your favorite restaurant so you could attend that huge EDM event that is happening next weekend.

Whatever you do, you will always be judged by your choices. People love to judge. We all judge but we shouldn’t. Recently, Elizabeth Lauten, a communications director for a Republican congressman, posted a status on Facebook criticizing Obama’s two girls and the way they were dressed during a public Thanksgiving ceremony at the White House, saying, “Dear Sasha and Malia, I get you’re both in those awful teen years, but you’re a part of the First Family, try showing a little class. At least respect the part you play.” She continued, saying, “dress like you deserve respect, not a spot at a bar.”

Of course, this got so much attention in the media and in general that she had to apologize about what she said on Facebook and resigned from her job.

“When I first posted on Facebook I reacted to an article and I quickly judged the two young ladies in a way that I would never have wanted to be judged myself as a teenager,” Lauten told The Commercial Appeal of Memphis in an email.

A grown woman judging two young girls this way is of course, wrong. Everyone has free will in this world and we have no right to judge others’ choices in life. This could be something simple from the music they listen to or the way they dress. Every individual has different beliefs, styles, preferences; this is why there is something called fashion, different varieties of music like pop, heavy metal, country, and there are different interior designs, different types of foods.

Choices in life are what make a person who they are today. If we live our lives to make others approve of our actions, then we are not really living for ourselves, we are living for others. Sometimes it all comes down to respect. When you don’t respect someone, you don’t respect their choices, also.