Men also suffer body image anxiety

by | Nov 21, 2014 | Opinion

Mario Belan
Online Editor

What you see isn’t always what you get when it comes to celebrity photos. But it’s not just women who are plagued with insecurities.

Kim Kardashian’s “Break the Internet” photos have caused quite a stir on social media, undoubtedly causing some women to compare their derrieres. It’s common knowledge that women are constantly pressured to look a certain way, but men also feel this way.

Yes, we do feel bad about our bodies.

Whenever I hear ladies talking about hot male celebrities, I get jealous. I don’t feel perfectly great about my body. When you see all these images and videos constantly tossed in your face, you start to feel bad about yourself.

I know that many of these images may be enhanced to make their abs and muscles stand out, but I still don’t feel good about myself – why should I?

It’s all about looking sexy, looking thin, and tips for those less fortunate to “improve” themselves.

I have never been confident about my body. I hardly take off my shirt anywhere, for fear that people would laugh at my body.

I would describe myself as a skinny-fat kid. I don’t have abs – I wish I did. I don’t have huge arms – I wish I did. I have been told I am “fit”, but I don’t agree. We are our own harshest critics.

Am I stubborn?

Maybe. I’m trying to get back into shape doing workouts again, but I’m confused by my motivations. Am I working out to become healthy? Or am I working out because society is telling me I should look a certain way?

Part of me is saying I’m doing it to be healthy, but the other part says I want to be this super-hot buff guy that makes all the heads turn.

I do want to have abs and muscles to impress my girlfriend, but she says doesn’t care how I look.

So why should I care?

I shouldn’t, but I know I will always be worried about my body as long as there are celebrities “hotter” than me (which is about every celebrity). As long as society has these unrealistic expectations for me, I will always look down on myself.

I recall many times where I would look down at my stomach and say – why?

Why can’t I be tall and have a “perfect” body? I know a chiseled physique is something you must work for, and I’m trying, but I just feel like it’s not working for me. I don’t want to give up, but the feeling of hopelessness always sets in.

I’m not sure when I will ever feel perfectly comfortable with my body, but I’m trying. The only way is to accept that I won’t ever look like a celebrity, because regular people don’t get photoshopped.

And most importantly, I have to feel like there is nothing wrong with my body.