Phone apps, dating sites, technology have changed game

by | Oct 31, 2014 | Life

Brianne Cail 

Life Reporter

Thanks to hundreds of dating sites, apps, and other forms of social media, the dating game has changed drastically.

For better or worse, love letters and serendipity have largely been replaced by screenshots and online matchmaking forms.

Maya Varley 18, a first year Humber Interior Design student, said technology has made dating less personal.

Varley hasn’t ventured into serious online dating yet, but has tried the popular phone app Tinder, primarily used to meet new people in one’s immediate area.

“Nothing has come out of it yet but I have had an interesting time with it so far.”

She said online dating can be tricky, because people don’t know who they are talking to for certain, and have to be cautious. Despite that, “I would definitely suggest it, just for fun.”

Hillary Mosker, a recent Western University graduate, said the idea of communication, and the way we go about doing it, has greatly changed in dating over the years.

“Before, it was very easy to contact someone and to speak with them directly. Today, through social media, personal cellphones, business software and the internet there are so many different areas of communication we are responsible for we forget about the importance of connecting face to face,” she said.

It is imperative to have strong pillars of communication on all levels when in a relationship, said Mosker.

Dating sites or apps do make it easier to meet people out of your area, she noted.

“The possibility of dating someone was limited to where you were at that time in your life. Today you can speak with people from different cities or countries with the same ease as speaking with someone in the same room as you,” she said.

Mosker, also a user of the Tinder app, recommends it to anyone not looking for a serious relationship right away.

“From (my) experience the majority of people that I matched with and talked to were looking for a casual conversation, perhaps a flirtation,” Mosker said.

Another method new approach that’s increasingly popular is speed dating.

On Oct. 24, the Humber North campus hosted a speed dating event, which allows for a more traditional face-to-face meeting with a twist – the date only lasts three minutes.

Ahmed Tahir, Humber Students’ Federation Vice President of Student Life at North campus, said that he received positive feedback from the students who participated in the event.

“It’s an interesting experience that most students have never been a part of before,” Tahir said.

This is the second year that HSF has hosted this event.

Whether speed dating, swiping in an app, or matching up online, all dates require a few key things, Mosker said.

“It just takes some time, patience and a few bad dates until you might find someone you connect with in reality.”