Women must take life into own hands

by | Nov 7, 2014 | Opinion

Tiara SamosirTiara
Arts & Entertainment Editor

Not long ago, one of my best friends decided to split up from her partner because he  asked her to quit her job and stay home.

This wasn’t the first time I heard about a relationship that was shattered for this reason.

I can’t understand why some men insist that women should stay at home. I have gone from thinking “this isn’t the 19th century, is it?” to doing my own research about what would possibly make men rather destroy their relationship than comply with their partner’s wishes to have a life.

The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that men feel worse about themselves subconsciously when the woman they are dating is successful. This result shows how insecure guys can be. As a matter of fact, this highlights the stereotype that men are self-centered and like to be in control.

Women’s rights to work have evolved since the 18th century. Back then, we were not allowed to do anything other than housework and raise a family. Now, we can get a good education and get the same jobs as men.

Certainly, this evolution has changed how we perceive ourselves and the world. The way we think, set up goals and overcome problems are different than back then. We can express our opinions, which I believe gives us different perspectives and might actually be able to help men solve their problems.

Instead of avoiding issues and trying to be in control, men should be thrilled to have a successful woman as their partner. These women would inspire them and push them to do better, to be better. Smart women are very picky about everything. If they want to be with you, it means that you have something to offer to their world, and that is something to be proud of.

It’s true that in my old-fashioned view, women should make their families the number one priority, but that doesn’t necessarily mean staying home and giving up our careers. I personally am going to school with the intention of getting a job after graduation. At the same time, I also hope to one day be a devoted mother and wife, and I know I’m not the only one.

I say if you want to be a successful, independent woman who makes an exceptional career for yourself, then be that woman. Don’t let a man make you settle down, and stop you from being what you could have been.